Marriage is an amazing part of life, gifted to us by God. It brings two people together and makes them one. It’s a mystery and an adventure. It is an amazing platform to see two people become the best version of themselves.
It’s definitely romantic and extremely fortifying to have a best friend by your side as you grow in life together. But it is also one of the hardest ventures one can take.
Here are some things to remember while building your marriage relationship.
Be Honest and Completely Transparent
It is imperative to have honest and open communication— all your hopes, dreams, fears and weaknesses laid out on the table. Nothing should be hidden. Everything should be in the open. There’s no “my stuff” and “your stuff.” It’s our stuff— our life, our friends and our dreams.
Having access to every part of each other’s lives, should reflect on how “two become one.” Communication is vital. Trust is the foundation of any relationship; and transparency is the key to trust.
Schedule Romance and Dating
Dating can easily be put to the side with a busy schedule. You’d be surprised how intentional you need to be with dating and romantic time together. It’s easy to blend everything in your day, and try to call “being together” as dating.
Dating involves special attention on the other, to get to know them and make them feel special. It doesn’t have to cost money, it just has to be set apart from regular activities.
Be Kind and Stay Nice
Being nice to one another, in the highs and lows, makes all the difference in the world. Be nice when you fight. Learn how to fight fair and to fight well. Also, you won’t always make each other happy every single day. The other person might be having a hard day, or you might be tired. Be nice anyways and it will reap you rewards.
Trust God Everyday
Learn to put all your concerns on God. About life, about your spouse, or about your future. Putting all your expectations on your spouse can be stressful. Yes, it’s important to work on being on the same page. But there are some things only God can do. We have to learn to trust and believe that things will work out. There is an element of faith in marriage. A God-centered marriage will always make it stronger.
Put Each Other First... Always
Always defend and speak well of each other to other people. Always put your spouse on the “top priority list.” God wants us to have successful marriages. Our priorities and decisions need to reflect that in our marriages. We cannot divide our attention so much, that we give them only what’s left of us. Show your spouse that it’s “me and you baby.”
I hope my experience inspired you!